Treat your co-parenting relationship like a business transaction.
This may sound like a harsh way to describe raising children as co-parents. However, after separation, there is a job to do that connects you with your former partner. That job is raising your children, your “product” as effectively and successfully as possible. Your former partner is your co-worker on this project, and while you may not always see eye to eye, the ultimate goal is achieving what is the best way to do your job.
Be professional, polite and respectful
Treat interactions with your former partner the same way you would treat interactions with your co-workers. Conversations should be friendly and appropriate for the circumstances. No matter how difficult it can sometimes be, be as polite and respectful as you would be in a professional environment.
Don’t send that email right away
If you are involved in an emotional exchange with your former partner via text or email, give yourself some time away from the situation until things have calmed down. You can type your reply, but read it again in 24 hours when your head has cleared and you can properly judge your choice of words.
Focus on the goals of the team
The ideal work environment takes multiple ideas and opinions into consideration before reaching a final outcome. Be flexible in your co-parenting relationship to avoid constant conflict. Remember, it is not about who “wins” or “loses”, but about the best interest of the children.
Have a solid plan
The best tool for a successful co-parenting relationship is a solid plan. Employees thrive when goals and expectations are clear, the same is true for separated parents navigating a co-parenting relationship. Being on the same page is always a recipe for success. This can be achieved through a solid parenting plan. Your family lawyer can help you negotiate the terms of a plan that is suited for your unique family needs, creating a comprehensive reference point and a useful tool in navigating any and all issues related to parenting.
A solid parenting plan, agreed upon by both parents, is like having a user manual for a co-parenting relationship. You will always have a guide to refer to if and when conflict arises, which can greatly reduce the stress and emotional toll of navigating parenting after separation.
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This WARDS LAWYERS PC publication is for general information only. It is not legal advice, nor is it intended to be. Specific or more information may be necessary before advice could be provided for your particular circumstances.
